i love you like a brother - A phrase that sounds sweet but means you're not even on her

A phrase that sounds sweet but means you're not even on her list. It's like being told you're just the backup plan.

You tell her you like her. She says, 'I love you like a brother.' You feel like backup.

You try to be cool again. She says, 'I love you like a brother.' You feel like backup again.

You try to be funny again. She says, 'I love you like a brother.' You feel like backup for the third time.