facipulate
Making things easy for people while secretly pushing your own agenda so hard it feels like you're trying to force your way into the meeting through a wall.
The boss made the meeting go smoothly, but everyone left confused about why the project was changed to match his idea.
The teacher let the class pick their groups, but everyone ended up with the worst partner.
The facilitator said 'let's all agree on this' but it was clear they just wanted everyone to say yes to their plan.